Verse 23: Mixture of Bhāvas

atha bhāva-miśraṇam. śrī-baladevādīnāṁ sakhyaṁ vātsalyaṁ dāsyaṁ ca. mukharā-prabhṛtīnāṁ vātsalyaṁ sakhyaṁ ca. yudhiṣṭhirasya vātsalyaṁ sakhyaṁ ca. bhīmasya sakhyaṁ vātsalyaṁ ca. arjunasya sakhyaṁ dāsyaṁ ca. nakula-sahadevayor dāsyaṁ sakhyaṁ ca. uddhavasya dāsyaṁ sakhyaṁ ca. akrūrograsenādīnāṁ dāsyaṁ vātsalyaṁ ca. aniruddhādīnāṁ dāsyaṁ sakhyaṁ ca.

Śrī Bindu-vikāśinī-vṛtti

In some devotees there is a mixture of the three rasas of dāsya, sakhya and vātsalya. In those devotees one of these rasas will be dominant and the others will be subordinate. The sakhya-rasa of Śrī Baladeva is mixed with vātsalya and dāsya. The vātsalya-rasa of Mukharā and other elderly gopīs is mixed with sakhya. The vātsalya-rasa of Yudhiṣṭhira is mixed with dāsya and sakhya. The sakhya-rasa of Bhīmasena is mixed with vātsalya. The sakhya-rasa of Arjuna is mixed with dāsya. The dāsya-rasa of Nakula and Sahadeva is mixed with sakhya. The dāsya of Śrī Uddhava, Rudra and Garuḍa is mixed with sakhya. The dāsya of Akrūra and Ugrasena is mixed with vātsalya. The dāsya of Aniruddha is mixed with sakhya.

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